I visited my parents. They have not been able to move on from my brothers death. I cannot blame them. Losing one of your children before you die is properly the worst thing which can happen to any parent.
I have to say that I also feel the loss. It is like a scar which will not go away. It is something which I have to carry for myself forever. And it doesn’t help talking about it. It cannot change anything. It is just like this.
So I have decided to take it like a Danish man and move on. This post is the end of the topic. My brother died because he was forced to live outside our culture and I urge any young Dane not to spend time abroad if possible. You cannot integrate yourself in another country just like people cannot be integrated succesfully in Denmark. Our family learned it the hard way. Learn from our experiences and do not repeat our mistake.